i'm a doormat...i admit it...i can't screw up my little-as-it-is courage and say 'no' to people...well i can but i usually mask my refusal with smiles and thousands of 'well, i got to finish up some bla bla bla paper today...sooo...' (aka excuses)....i feel bad but then again, it's better than outright 'NO!I HATE YOU SO I'M AVOIDING YOUR UGLY MUG ON PURPOSE, YOU MORON!'...
what is the best way to refuse someone or something without hurting their feelings?i admit my strategies work most of the time...strategies like pleading temporary amnesia due to extreme distress, my favourite blouse is burned through when i iron it for your party, i'm waiting for a very important call from my lecturer (at 10 pm at night on saturday) and so on can only work so much...after 3 successive refusals and avoidance, i must be more creative in new way of excusing myself...
i sound tiresome (and some even stop inviting me for things, not that i usually minded, u have ur own stuff and i have mine...fine?)...but really...i'm not super rich...i need to count my pennies for every occasion...things like expenses and budget may sound boring to u but my life is ruled by it (what does it say when ur life is ruled by money?harley the gold-digger?hahaha)...until i become mega rich (or marry an old doddering millionaire, in my dreams), i can't afford to go to thai chilli every friday night for friends' chilling night out...i can't fork out 17 bucks every time someone wants to hang out on a nice sunday afternoon on one of my favourite mussel platters at occidental bar at vulcan lane tho' i would dearly love to...i can't spend 5 dollars on my dearly beloved taro milk pudding drink at hulu cat...things like these are novelties to me...
i spend when i deem neccessary...i spend for my friends b-day dinner...i spend when someone is going somewhere...i spend when someone needs a sympathetic ear...i spend when i feel like it...i hate crowds...i'm not a crowd person...the bigger the group is, the more reluctant i am to join the conversation...so don't be surprised if u tell me u have invited 20 people for our dinner date and i will magically come up with some stupid excuse to bail coz yup, i prefer a smaller group...the more intimate it is, the better...i can't concentrate when all 20 people are talking simultaneously and it is more likely that you are making conversation with only the 4 people sitting near you rather than all of them...not that it's wrong or anything...but i'd love to learn more abt people or catch up...if u are in such a big crowd, u can feel so alone and left out...i don't mind occassional crowd meetings, but every week?not my cuppa tea...
invite me for a private tête-à-tête, i'll definitely be the first to be there!if you plan to invite the whole busload of people, then have fun!i'll be eagerly reading romance at home, awaiting for ur story of the gathering!^^
p/s: aren't the first paragraph and the rest contradict one another?ah...try to make sense it them...if ever...hahaha...my thought process jumps from one thing to another....
what is the best way to refuse someone or something without hurting their feelings?i admit my strategies work most of the time...strategies like pleading temporary amnesia due to extreme distress, my favourite blouse is burned through when i iron it for your party, i'm waiting for a very important call from my lecturer (at 10 pm at night on saturday) and so on can only work so much...after 3 successive refusals and avoidance, i must be more creative in new way of excusing myself...
i sound tiresome (and some even stop inviting me for things, not that i usually minded, u have ur own stuff and i have mine...fine?)...but really...i'm not super rich...i need to count my pennies for every occasion...things like expenses and budget may sound boring to u but my life is ruled by it (what does it say when ur life is ruled by money?harley the gold-digger?hahaha)...until i become mega rich (or marry an old doddering millionaire, in my dreams), i can't afford to go to thai chilli every friday night for friends' chilling night out...i can't fork out 17 bucks every time someone wants to hang out on a nice sunday afternoon on one of my favourite mussel platters at occidental bar at vulcan lane tho' i would dearly love to...i can't spend 5 dollars on my dearly beloved taro milk pudding drink at hulu cat...things like these are novelties to me...
i spend when i deem neccessary...i spend for my friends b-day dinner...i spend when someone is going somewhere...i spend when someone needs a sympathetic ear...i spend when i feel like it...i hate crowds...i'm not a crowd person...the bigger the group is, the more reluctant i am to join the conversation...so don't be surprised if u tell me u have invited 20 people for our dinner date and i will magically come up with some stupid excuse to bail coz yup, i prefer a smaller group...the more intimate it is, the better...i can't concentrate when all 20 people are talking simultaneously and it is more likely that you are making conversation with only the 4 people sitting near you rather than all of them...not that it's wrong or anything...but i'd love to learn more abt people or catch up...if u are in such a big crowd, u can feel so alone and left out...i don't mind occassional crowd meetings, but every week?not my cuppa tea...
invite me for a private tête-à-tête, i'll definitely be the first to be there!if you plan to invite the whole busload of people, then have fun!i'll be eagerly reading romance at home, awaiting for ur story of the gathering!^^
p/s: aren't the first paragraph and the rest contradict one another?ah...try to make sense it them...if ever...hahaha...my thought process jumps from one thing to another....
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