this is one issue that i expound on so many times, my intimates know so well, they know they'll never win...commitment to me means loyalty and especially fidelity...god knows i've never even have one non-serious relationship to the male species, let alone a serious one...but...i'm strict on one thing...fidelity...if u have a wandering pair of eyes, walk away...if u don't know how to respect ur other half, marry a cat instead...if u ever, ever think that, yeah, this is the new world, divorce is easy...or worse, muslim men out there, yes u can have 4 wives...if u ever indeed think that it is legal and all set up right and tight to fill the other 3-wives quota, sayonara from the get-go mister...
i don't understand half of the male population (maybe more, well who's counting?)...not that i'm saying there is no bitches out there who love other women's men...i've seen it myself...some women are just pure poison...they don't care if they wreck a marriage...they just don't freaking care...that's another topic for another day...anyway, most of us are aware that men are led by their thinking organ, their **ck (aka definitely not the brain)...that's fine...but what makes it bad is when they actually act on that...
i've personally seen my own family members (pay attention to this part), male family members (again, pay attention of the 's' at the end of the word 'member'), hurt the ones they are committed to...the worse part is, not only they hurt the wives, they also hurt the children...the children are very close to the mother....especially the young girls...seeing their mother being hurt by their own father's unfaithfulness, they are forced to choose side...not that the mother ever intentionally do that but when u see it with ur own eyes, u kinda have to...i was there when this person brought his 'other woman' around, telling and shushing us, the children, to keep it a 'little secret' from everyone else...but come on!!!...we live in such a small town...words get around...and that bitch...she ended up marrying her close friend's husband...and that family member of mine...don't let me start on him...
how can u respect that kind of man?...no matter how much older he is, i can't seem to respect him...there's just no respect in my mind, even though i do show the manifestation of respect, just to keep the family peace...he is just not someone to look up to...doesn't he even realize that the same thing may happen to his own daughters?...does he want that?...wait....he just doesn't think, sadly....his brain's little things called neurons are just not interconnecting and processing the word 'fidelity', 'loyalty', 'commitment', 'faithfulness' into what they are supposed to mean...
to round this up, i repeat, i am not in a relationship and i am very well aware i don't know the feeling...but...i have eyes and ears...i also think...i don't ever ever want to be in a position to know that my husband has an affair or a second (or god forbid third and fourth) wife/s...i am not a martyr and i definitely know that my husband is and will never be a prophet (who could marry more since they are the prophets and they know how to be fair and all that), so quit the crap about what the inscription the Al-Quran stated about allowing men to have more than one wife...i know they are allowed to but how deep is their depth of knowledge in the whole topic of Islam and marriage...when a man really understands and practices what he knows about these two important aspects of polygamy, then he is allowed to...before that, cut the whole 'i'm allowed' bullshit and straighten ur brain first...
p/s: this is not a statement against the prophets or Al-Quran...i totally agree with the Quran but i don't agree with the men who want to practice polygamy....coz i'm pretty sure if these men are quizzed about polygamy, 99.9999999% of the time they fail the first question....that, to wrap things up means they know almost nada...usually men who really understand about Islamic knowledge of marriage and polygamy won't even practice it coz they know they will fail one of the golden rules, the rule of 'fairness'....and to be fair there are good men out there...it's just these rotten ones are tainting the whole bowl of milk, u know what i mean...
i don't understand half of the male population (maybe more, well who's counting?)...not that i'm saying there is no bitches out there who love other women's men...i've seen it myself...some women are just pure poison...they don't care if they wreck a marriage...they just don't freaking care...that's another topic for another day...anyway, most of us are aware that men are led by their thinking organ, their **ck (aka definitely not the brain)...that's fine...but what makes it bad is when they actually act on that...
i've personally seen my own family members (pay attention to this part), male family members (again, pay attention of the 's' at the end of the word 'member'), hurt the ones they are committed to...the worse part is, not only they hurt the wives, they also hurt the children...the children are very close to the mother....especially the young girls...seeing their mother being hurt by their own father's unfaithfulness, they are forced to choose side...not that the mother ever intentionally do that but when u see it with ur own eyes, u kinda have to...i was there when this person brought his 'other woman' around, telling and shushing us, the children, to keep it a 'little secret' from everyone else...but come on!!!...we live in such a small town...words get around...and that bitch...she ended up marrying her close friend's husband...and that family member of mine...don't let me start on him...
how can u respect that kind of man?...no matter how much older he is, i can't seem to respect him...there's just no respect in my mind, even though i do show the manifestation of respect, just to keep the family peace...he is just not someone to look up to...doesn't he even realize that the same thing may happen to his own daughters?...does he want that?...wait....he just doesn't think, sadly....his brain's little things called neurons are just not interconnecting and processing the word 'fidelity', 'loyalty', 'commitment', 'faithfulness' into what they are supposed to mean...
to round this up, i repeat, i am not in a relationship and i am very well aware i don't know the feeling...but...i have eyes and ears...i also think...i don't ever ever want to be in a position to know that my husband has an affair or a second (or god forbid third and fourth) wife/s...i am not a martyr and i definitely know that my husband is and will never be a prophet (who could marry more since they are the prophets and they know how to be fair and all that), so quit the crap about what the inscription the Al-Quran stated about allowing men to have more than one wife...i know they are allowed to but how deep is their depth of knowledge in the whole topic of Islam and marriage...when a man really understands and practices what he knows about these two important aspects of polygamy, then he is allowed to...before that, cut the whole 'i'm allowed' bullshit and straighten ur brain first...
p/s: this is not a statement against the prophets or Al-Quran...i totally agree with the Quran but i don't agree with the men who want to practice polygamy....coz i'm pretty sure if these men are quizzed about polygamy, 99.9999999% of the time they fail the first question....that, to wrap things up means they know almost nada...usually men who really understand about Islamic knowledge of marriage and polygamy won't even practice it coz they know they will fail one of the golden rules, the rule of 'fairness'....and to be fair there are good men out there...it's just these rotten ones are tainting the whole bowl of milk, u know what i mean...
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